在一个论坛看到的，在讨论接受了给孩子自由和爱的理念后，如何给予规则的边界。一个妈妈分享了一个家规，非常好，搬过来分享:

DUGGAR HOUSE GUIDELINES 达格尔的家规

1)  Always use soft words, even when you don’t feel well.
保持善言善语，哪怕此刻你觉得不适。
2)  Always display kind actions and joyful attitudes, even if you have been mistreated. Have the right response by quickly forgiving others in your heart even before they ask.
保持善行和愉悦，哪怕你遭遇不公之对待。原谅他人，不一定要等到他请求原谅。
3)  Always be enthusiastic and look for opportunities to praise others' character.
保持热情，并随时寻找机会赞美他人。
4) Always deflect praise and be grateful to God and others for the ways they have benefited your life.　
总是趋向于表扬并感激上帝和其他人以他们的方式照亮了我们的生命。
5)  Always use manners and be respectful of others and their belongings.
保持礼貌，尊重他人及他们的所属物。
6)  Always do what is right, even when others may not, or  when no one is looking.
总是做真正正确的事情，即便其他人不这样做，即便无人欣赏。
7)   Thank God for how He made you, for what He has given you and everything He allows you to go through.  (Romans 8:28)
感激上帝塑造的我，感激他给予的一切，感激他赐予的一切。
8)  Don’t mock or put others down. Develop compassion  and pray for others.
不嘲弄别人，不侮辱别人。有同情心，为他人祈祷。
9) Never argue, complain, or blame. Quickly admit when you have done wrong and ask for forgiveness (even if you were only 10% at fault). Don't wait till you’re caught. Be sure your sins will find you out. He who covers his sin will not prosper, but he that confesses and forsakes it shall find mercy.
永不争吵、抱怨、责怪。犯了错应快速认错并请求原谅（即便只有10%是你的错），不要等到被捉住。相信天网恢恢疏而不漏，藏匿了罪行的人不会发达，那些忏悔、放下罪行的人将会得到宽恕。
10) Have a tough accountability/prayer partner to daily share your heart with and to keep you in line (your parents, spouse). The power of sin is in secrecy.
拥有稳固的方式或祈祷伙伴，一起分享你的内心，让父母或配偶来管束我们。罪恶的力量往往源自不为人所知。                 
11)  Be attentive and look for ways to serve others with  sincere motives and no thought of self-gain.
热心他人，寻找为他人服务的方式，怀着真诚的动机和不利己的心。
12)  Think pure thoughts (Philippians 4:8, Romans 13:14).
保持纯洁的思想。
13)  Always give a good report of others. Don't gossip!  Never tale-bear unless physical harm will come to someone. (Use Matthew 18.)
言人之好，不嚼舌根。不搬弄是非，除非为了避免他人遭遇身体的伤害。
14)  Never raise a hand to hit.
不伸手打人。
15)  Never raise a foot to kick.
不伸腿踢人。
16)  Never raise an object to throw.
不乱扔东西。
17)  Never raise a voice to yell.
不提高嗓门大喊大叫。
18)  Never raise an eye to scowl.
不瞪眼怒视。
19)  Use one toy/activity at a time.  Share!  
每次只玩一种玩具，只参与一种活动。要分享！
20)  Do your best to keep your surroundings neat, clean and  organized.
尽可能让你周遭保持整洁有序。.

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真好！.