于此,我们要对远志明牧师的太太刘丽莉由衷道声主内祝福,面对凝固、窒息的空气,不完美过往更能彰显上帝奇妙的恩典,你们曾用濒临破灭的婚姻,在基督里,在信仰中重生,把爱与幸福最美善的成全显明给了我们,让我们看到人的谦卑在上帝盟约关系中圣善的美德,甚至你们女儿那张写着“Are you a Christian”的小便条,也成为特殊处境中你们夫妻相爱的最好见证!
当受害人得主的宝血洗净、医治释放后,她在真理中是个自由的人,就当存感恩的心顺服基督,选择饶恕加害的人。这个饶恕,并不根基在加害人是否知罪或道歉。当然,神必审判罪人,然而神并没有等我们罪人认罪后才派耶稣基督来为我们死,是神先赦免我们,祂的恩慈引领我们悔改。因此,如果C只是为了报复或为了要伸张公义而要求Y道歉,即使Y道歉了,也不能使C从被强暴或性侵伤害中得到医治复原(restoration and reconciliation)因此而得救恩的平安和喜乐。是耶稣十字架医治C,C才能有平安喜乐的生命往前行。纵然施暴者没有悔改,被害人仍然可以因耶和华救恩而喜乐。
Chai Ling told me that she had been raped by Yuanzhiming inthe fall of 1990 at Princeton. She talked about maybe including itin her book and I felt that she shouldn’t include that in her book.
Oct.2011
She told me that …God showed her to forgive Yuanzhiming. She came tome and told me that God wanted her to forgive him. I told her toemail him and tell him the Lord wants her to forgivehim.
Oct. 2011
She wrote the email to say she’d forgive him. He called back the next day andasked her who she had told because it would be bad for her. Hedenied he had raped her. She was very upset. He said he didn’t need to apologize to anyone for thingshe had done before he was a Christian because he was a new creationnow and the past was gone. I told her she had done what God hadwanted her to do.